You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of heavens dance between you.
- Kahlil Gibran’s
Recently, my work with families touched by Parkinson’s has caused me think of a verse about marriage in Kahlil Gibran’s classic, The Prophet. Much of the stress and difficulty arising in the PD relationships can be traced to forgetting to “let the winds of heaven dance between you” (the partners). This failure is what therapists call emotional dependence.